Many of of us go through life convincing ourselves that we are happy, when the reality is that we are just comfortable. To be honest, I think we strive to please society and those who truly don’t matter so much that we put our own needs and wants on the back burner.
I have been watching my generation grow and evolve over the past several years, and yes there is an obvious difference between now and the 50’s.
Millennials are shamed for not marrying the first person they sleep with. They are seen as immature for not choosing one career path and sticking with it. To top it off, the generation has been labeled as lazy simply because they have chosen not to follow in their families footsteps.
Could it be because we see just how broken the system truly is? Women were taught to put everyone but themselves first. Men were taught that there only responsibilities were bringing the money home, and assuming the role as the “alpha” in the house.
During this timeframe, it wasn’t an issue. However when you look at the outcome of their children…you can see that this norm did more damage than good.
The unspoken assaults, alcohol abuse, suicides, homicides, and so much more could have been avoided altogether if people were encouraged to do what’s best for them as individuals.
It truly breaks my heart to look at the world today. People are so uncomfortable stepping outside of the “norm” that they choose hate over love, and political nonsense over their own family!
It’s a messed up ideology. It’s almost scary to admit to wanting more for myself to others because I’m looked at as being selfish. Heck, it’s the people that I barely know who show their love and support for stepping out of the norm when I should be receiving that from the ones who are “friends” and “family” in my opinion.
The war is against ourselves ultimately. I’m talking about our inner self because everyone feels the need to be accepted by people irrelevant to them.
At some point though, you have to take a step back and evaluate the person your seeking validation from. What’s their background, life experience, and why are they relevant today?
I’ve had to do this several times. Not to belittle anyone, but I’ve noticed that the few I sought validation from in the past simply couldn’t contribute to the conversation anyways.
I began to realize that they didn’t necessarily mean harm, but what they knew is all they were taught.
I’m no longer in a state of bitterness over my differences, but I do want to shine a light on a bigger situation and offer some advice to those who might feel alone on their journey to success while establishing new norms.
First off, you’re not going to be able to please everyone but if they don’t pay your bills and contribute to your growth, their opinion really shouldn’t matter.
Fortunately we live in a time where the younger generation encourages acceptance and individuality so surround yourself with individuals that accept you for you.
As hard as it can be, you have to cut toxic people out of your life! Stop letting them get reactions out of you. Forgive them, and MOVE ON!
You’re going to be faced with many challenges and obstacles in life, but it doesn’t always have to be viewed as a negative. Through adversity comes strength, accept it proudly!!
Not everyone clapping for you is happy for you. Seek validation from yourself first!
Maybe you had a rough start in life, don’t let that define who you are and who you’ll become.
Many don’t mean harm when they belittle you, but SPEAK UP! You‘re voice will always matter!!
Lastly, YOU matter! Anytime you make a decision put you in mind first. Selfish view…
MAYBE
But if you can’t take care of yourself, how in the world are you going to take care of somebody else??
Aleisha Kay
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