So…you’ve had a baby or a few. What now? I feel that majority of people think that having kids takes away the ability to enjoy sex. I’d say, it definitely makes it a little more challenging, but why should it take away what brought you together in the first place!!
Haha, yeah I said it, and I say it proudly! Sorry mom and dad. But hey, I’m only human, and I’m not the only one in the world who feels that intimacy is just as important as getting to know a person’s ambitions and goals!
Anyways, the original action that brought you that bundle of joy shouldn’t become the elephant in the room after you’ve had your baby! Most of us don’t feel nor do we look the same, and that can stunt growth in the bedroom simply because we are too in our own heads.
While it’s not easy, you have to have the conversation with your significant other so that together you can break through that wall! Your body has done something so extraordinary you really should give yourself more credit!
I struggled a lot after my first pregnancy because my bodies hormones continued shifting up and down. Many don’t tell you that regardless on if you carry for 12 weeks or 42 that your body needs time to shift back into a normal state.
Some females have no issue at, but a lot of us find that it feels like you are losing your virginity all over again the first few times you engage in intercourse postpartum. It’s a little more difficult being spontaneous when you are in the mood, but your body isn’t quite responding… if you catch my drift.
On top of that, if you’re young you don’t consider that sometimes natural lubrication just simply isn’t enough. Well here’s my advice to you. Natural Fractionated Coconut oil!!
Not only is it a natural product, but it’s great for lubrication as well as maintaining and balancing your PH. If you have stretch marks it’s perfect for diminishing as well hydrating the skin!
Set a pump bottle throughout your house or just simply massage it on right after a nice shower.
Also be comfortable talking to your partner about it. You’re not alone, and ladies she’s not broken… Change positions until you are comfortable. Foreplay longer than a minute! There are other ways to be intimate!
You have to crawl before you walk, and walk before you run girls!! Sex is a safe space for you and your partner, and it only gets better the more you evolve together! Get out of your head and hop in the bed, car, shower, and wherever you can get some alone time from the kids!!!
It’s time to normalize postpartum healthy sex. Feel free to comment below what you think, and add to the conversation!
Aleisha Kay
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